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The ever challenging question for women, specifically African American women.

Most men are attracted to a woman who is beautiful inside and out. Yes, INSIDE! We like a woman who is smart, not TOO emotional, hopefully avoiding all points leading to irrational behavior. And we like a woman who will take care of herself for herself. Never at any point should either the man or woman tell their significant other, “I think you should get in shape or try on a new outfit.” That should be a personal choice and most men want a woman who can make that choice on their own as opposed to any sort of persuasion.

Now, we all want our significant other or even “cuddle buddies, fu** buddies” to look good when we are around them, but it is a lot easier and more inexpensive for a man to stay in shape and tend to his outward appearance than it is for a woman to do the same. Yes fellas, we want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed. We want a tight body, a nice outfit, and a good looking hair do for our women, but we can only get two of the three in most cases. Women have a bit of a challenge, specifically African American women, and that is the up keep of their hair. African American woman have REPEATEDLY told me over and over, “I DON’T WORK OUT as much because my hair will sweat out.” “Why waste $30-$50/month on keeping my body tight, when it ruins the $100 -$120/month wash and set?”

Well Shit, I don’t know what to tell ya (said in my Martin Lawrence voice), just suck it up and get ya money up.– Just kidding. I mean, from what I hear the one viable option for women is a weave. Women can work out without their hair losing its luster/set/finish (don’t really know the term, but you get my drift.) HOWEVER, if you are a man like me or know a man like me then you know I’m all about al NaTuRal (said in a slow, attempting humor, latin accent). Not Natural in the sense of afro-puffs, although those can rock if it fits you, but natural in the sense that women should do what they can with what they naturally have.

Now a more important subject is whether one uses their “hair” as an excuse to 1. not go to the gym or 2. to ultimately not live a healthy lifestyle. I understand the media pressure to look like Beyonce’ with the amazing body and hair, but shit if you had to choose one, choose health. Because in my opinion, this is of a much greater value in the long run. You will feel better as you lose weight or tighten up whatever your focus is.

From what I’ve heard a lot of women sacrifice their health simply because they don’t want to have to deal with their hair. Well I think that is the wrong decision. Exercise is SCIENTIFICALLY one of the most rewarding forms of maintaining a healthy lifestyle and if you need to sacrifice the ease of not having to do your hair so often to receive these benefits, then DO IT. Working out will ultimately cause you to look better anyway, regardless of your hair style. Because a nice body will anchor whatever hair style you can afford to put together, so maintaining your hair is NOT as important. Not to mention you will lose weight, tighten up, increase your sex drive and your confidence level will shoot through the roof!– which is most important, because to me one of the most attractive qualities of a woman is confidence. I think I understand why Lady Gaga and Rihanna can get away with wearing such left of center outfits. Its because they know they look good regardless of whatever outfit or hairstyle they have on and that resonates. My point being that confidence resonates and working out leads to good health and a ton of confidence. But think of it this way, would it be worth it to always have a tight smoking hot bod and know that when you get your hair done you are basically superwoman? A compromise could be, 3 months of gym, 1 month of hair, or 2 months of gym, 2 months of hair, whatever you feel works best, but, to me, sacrificing your health for your hair is not worth it in the long run. I choose health!

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The other issue I’ve heard is that women are afraid to work out because they feel they will look like a man. Now, this concern is one I can understand because most women like feeling like a woman: Soft, thick, cuddly. I get it. But I assure it not only takes a specific and detailed diet regimen to become the next female Arnold Schwarzenegger, but you will have to lift weights in a way that is not for toning, but for bulking. See your local trainer for that. But overall, from what I know, lifting light weights in high reps will tone your body without bulking you up.

Good Health.