Lance Drummonds Music Blog

In this lovely digital age there are so many different means of getting your opinion out. I’m not here to say what’s right or wrong; good or bad; true or false. I’m here to say all of it. You probably won’t meet a more diplomatic person. But I digress…

They say chivalry is dead.

I’m not saying they’re wrong, but who are “they”? And what’s led them to believe that chivalry is on a side street somewhere belly-up?

I think that as a generation, we’re ALL to blame for the downfall of Sir/Mme Chivalry. Let’s take current events as a point of reference. Tiger Woods—really? Cheating is wrong, point-blank-period. But why be so sloppy about it to the point where there are voicemails that don’t even need to be traced back to you because you SAY YOUR NAME? Hello!!! This is the jump-off’s phone we’re talking about, not your wife’s. At the very least, come up with an alias! Cheating, as wrong as it is, becomes more hurtful the more deliberate it appears. More crucial than your reputation, your wife and children are at stake. This is your well-being that you’re toying with. I could go to Cadillac tomorrow and ask them for an endorsement deal but they wouldn’t give me one. Why? Because I’m not a person that the masses look up to.

To deviate from Tiger, there are so many other public figures that have been caught with their hand in the jar of infidelity. We can all argue that it is a stupid move to cheat (or be sloppy about cheating) if you’re famous. But that doesn’t exempt the rest of us. “Infidelity” has as negative or uncomfortable a connotation on a relationship as “dissonance” on music. “Jump-offs” have been referenced as “Temps”, which is amazingly fitting. Your place as a “Temp” is, indeed, temporary so assume your position! This is assuming that it has been established in the beginning that there is a main piece and said “main piece” is on the same page as you—that you’re both allowed to see other people. If you’re getting your swerve on, why can’t they?

On the converse side of things, why cheat in the first place? If you don’t want to be in a committed relationship, lay the ground rules so that your mate can choose whether he/she wants to be an option and not a priority. It is only fair that you lay all of the cards on the table, so to speak. As long as all parties are abreast of the situation, wouldn’t that make life easier? At that point, if the prospect decides to go along with it, they have no claim to you and you can make this argument should there be mention of infidelity. Honesty is key, before you do the deed! If not, in the end all you get is MESSY.

Miss Ro